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Five Things I've Learned So Far in 2017

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Five Things I've Learned So Far in 2017

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So far in 2017, the Falcons lost, our President has banned an entire religion, and I can't even "Uber Everywhere" anymore, sheesh.

We're only 37 days in! 

I've learned some cool things, from leaving my savage days behind me, to learning how to just say no.


Being a “savage” gets exhausting…and it’s not cute.

First, let me say this, I’m in no way a real savage.

Some of y’all *side eye* are really in these streets, and I just don’t have time for that.

However, I have been guilty of dating a few different people at the same time, who hasn't? But this year, I realized that I had to stop!

Why?

Honestly, I got my feelings hurt.

You see, when you play with fire, you tend to get burned. As a woman, I have a deep emotional core, so while I tried to convince myself that I didn’t have feelings towards anyone, I ended up playing myself *DJ Khalid voice.*

So, moving forward, I may be single, but that doesn’t mean that I’m AVAILABLE. 


Being young is no longer an excuse for being irresponsible.

I almost lost my job. No really this time!

For some reason, I thought it was okay to walk into work 40 minutes late. I mean, I was already late, what difference did it make, right? WRONG. As I walked in, my bosses were literally waiting for me, and I just knew that I was 30 seconds away from being eligible to re-apply for foodstamps (I miss them).

But thank God they had mercy on the kid! I had rationalized that because I was the youngest person in my position in the office that I had a few "passes." Please don’t ask me WHY I thought this, I literally have no clue.

Being the youngest doesn’t mean that you have an excuse to goof off, if anything, I should be doing my part to reverse the stereotypes about young workers!

If you were wondering, I haven’t been late since then, ayeee!


Just say no – no one is gonna hate you.

No baaaaarely exists in my vocabulary. It’s sad, honestly.

  • “Can I have your number?” Sure. Instantly blocks.
  • “Can you help me with this project?” Absolutely! Currently drowning in other work.
  • “Do you wanna go out to eat?” Yaaaas! Broke, broke, broke.

This year, I have started to just say NO! Of course, not just flat out no, and I typically give a reason, but at the end of the day the answer is still no.

I had to adjust my yes’s to no’s because I realized my time was being wasted, I was being used a lot of the time, and I was just being down right irresponsible!

Another thing I've learned is how powerful it is to tell MYSELF no. No Krystal, he’s bad for you. No Krystal, you have food at home. No Krystal, you don’t need those shoes. Okay, that last one hasn’t happened yet, but I know it’s coming soon! 


You are not always the victim.

Whooo, time to get deep!

Sometimes, okay, ALL THE TIME, I internalize situations that have nothing to do with me, I even formulate thoughts that make me a victim.

Example – my sister is going through her terrible teens (she’s 15), and she’s probably reading this, hey boo! Her acting out back at home, leads me to think that I did something wrong as an older sister. Thoughts that run through my head are: “Did I not set a good example?”, “Did I not call her enough?”, or “Maybe when I went to college, she feels like I left her behind.”

Seriously, all day, this is what runs through my mind, then I had to realize that maybe it’s not me.

Let’s take a moment to let that sink in –

MAYBE

IT’S

NOT

YOU

Sometimes, a call back doesn’t mean that they don’t care. Sometimes, they didn’t tell you something important because it slipped their mind. Sometimes, they didn’t invite you because they know it’s not your scene.

You are not always a victim. 


I am not invincible.

I’m getting a gun in 2017.

Why?

Because people are crazy. I had the most uncomfortable run-in with someone this past weekend at a show. I went live on Facebook about it here.

I go so many places by myself and I had to realize that I am putting myself in serious danger.

My entire life is public. My social media, my blog, my job, all of it. At any point in time, anyone can know where to find me! That’s a chilling thought.

So here’s what I’m doing to protect myself:

·      Bringing a friend (or two) to everywhere I go.

·      Always letting someone know where I am.

·      Getting my pistol permit – and a pink gun. Y’all knew.

Ladies, and guys, protect yourself. It’s so important! 


I can't wait to see all the lessons that 2017 has in store for me, I just hope I learn the easy way and not the hard way! 

But, we all know that's not likely.

xoxo, kryss